Life Is Too Short for Shame
Tired of feeling unworthy? Defective? Perpetually sorry? Some adults with ADHD feel weighted down by a lifetime of self-blame. Learn about where it comes from, why it's harmful, and how to set yourself free.
by Ned Hallowell, M.D.
Shame and ADHD
Living with ADHD can feel like a constant stream of
apologies: we’re sorry we’re late, sorry we lost our keys, sorry we can’t keep the house neat — no matter how hard we try. If you have ADHD — especially if you were diagnosed late in your life — these endless apologies and self-blame may have added up to a crippling sense of shame. If you won’t even look in your purse anymore because you’re tortured by how disorganized it is, you may have a problem controlling your shame.