How to Steer Your Teen Without Hovering or Nagging
Teens and tweens with executive function deficits need an extra nudge to get going. Here are 8 ways to help them get (and stay!) on the right track without being a helicopter parent.
by Peg Dawson, Ed.D.
#8 Use Positive Communication Tricks
These ideas come from a book by Arthur Robin, and suggest
ways to replace bad patterns when families aren’t communicating well. If your
family does this… try these alternative strategies:
- Call each other names. >Express anger without hurt.
- Put each other down. > Say, “I am angry that you did…”
- Interrupt each other. > Take turns; keep it short.
- Criticize too much. > Point out the good and bad.
- Get defensive. > Listen, then calmly disagree.
- Lecture. > Tell it straight and short.
- Talk in sarcastic tone. > Talk in normal tone.
- Dredge up the past. > Stick to the present.
- Read others’ minds. > Ask others’ opinions.
- Command, order. > Request nicely.
- Give the silent treatment. > Say what’s bothering you.
- Make light of something. > Take it seriously.