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— Eric, Illinois
ADDitude asked: "What was your first reaction after you (or your child) had been diagnosed with ADHD?"
My first response was "I knew it." Now people can stop blaming me for everything. — An ADDitude Reader
Guilt. It is irrational, but I felt I had caused my child to be born with ADHD. At the same time, there was relief that we could now figure out how to help him. — An ADDitude Reader
I said to myself, "What a waste my life has been." — James, California
Part of me was relieved to finally have a name for my symptoms, and part of me was upset because nobody wants to have anything "wrong" with her. I wasn't surprised, because Ialways knew that I was a little bit "different" from most people. I tried for years to "fix" it, but, one day, I realized that it wasn't a disease to be cured, it was a personality trait to be understood. — Cherese, Utah
I will never let someone humiliate or put me down again. That happened all through school, and it was terrible. I was hard on myself at work before my ADD diagnosis. Now I understand better what my deficits are, and I develop strategies and get the right supports in place to be successful. It has been a big shift in my life. — Clare, Canada
My reaction was surprise, disappointment, relief. When my daughter was diagnosed, I had understanding and empathy for what she was going through. — Candy, Texas
We worried. We didn't know anything about ADHD when our son was diagnosed. Our perception of attention deficit was mostly wrong. The diagnosis forced us to learn more about the condition, and that made us better parents. — Dan, Canada
When my child was diagnosed, I was relieved. It was also a clue that I might have the same problem. I went to the doctor and found out that I was correct. — Monica, Missouri
I felt heartbroken after my son was diagnosed, but I was determined to get him the help he needs. — Janita, New Jersey
I felt guilty knowing that ADHD didn't just affect me but also my family and other close relationships. — Helen, New Jersey
I said, "I will never allow my child to take a Ritalin-type drug," a position we gave up on. — An ADDitude Reader
Torn. I was afraid that medication would affect my child's growth and development. Ultimately, I helped my son advocate for himself and understand what he needed to do in order to grow. — Jennifer, Canada
I thought, "Maybe I have ADHD, too." It turns out, I do! — Patricia, Texas
"What do we do now?" We were unsure what the future would be like for our son. We pulled away from our friends who had children the same age, because our child could not compete with them (or so we thought). It is hard to put into words what parents feel when their child is diagnosed with a disability. — Mary, Connecticut
I felt fear, anger, and outrage when people suggested that my child take powerful drugs. However, after a while, I realized that I was doing harm to my child, and his self-esteem, by withholding treatment. So we went with medication. — Gwen, Indiana
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